All moms are busy. Whether you work or stay home, there are endless piles of laundry, cleaning that always needs to be done, and kids that need help with everything from homework to bathing. Moms do it all, and rarely have time for themselves. That’s why many moms feel stressed most of the time, and many of them seem generally unhappy. But, as a busy mom of three kids, part-time student and writer, I can tell you that it is possible to sneak in some mom time and feel more relaxed.
- Let Go of your “Mom Guilt”
This is the most important thing you can do as a mom, which is why it’s number one. Even if you don’t do everything you wanted to do, or don’t help everyone in a day, that’s ok. Don’t feel guilty about what you didn’t do, or should have done. Think about all the things you did do, and feel accomplished and proud. Even if all you did was breastfeed and change diapers, that is amazing! You kept your baby alive and healthy. Letting go of your mom guilt will make the rest of these tips that much easier.
- Say No
This one is hard. You want to do everything and help everyone. You want to be liked, and you want people to think you’re amazing. Guess what? You are amazing even if you say no, and people won’t like you any less for not helping with everything. Prioritize your days, and decide what you have time for. If the school bake sale is during your baby’s nap time, and you don’t want to compromise it, don’t! Only help with the things you are passionate about and have time for. Say “sorry, but I can’t” to everyone else, and enjoy your life with your kids. Taking on too much can be super stressful, and who needs that?
- Enlist Help
Often when it’s been a stressful day, as soon as my husband gets home from work, I hit the “grocery store” alone. Sometimes we don’t even need anything, I just go sit in the parking lot and read for 30 minutes, or go wander around Target. A quick break will do wonders for your sanity, so find someone who you can rely on when you’re having an extra stressful day. Whether it be a spouse or partner, parent, grandparent, or a friend; it’s nice to have someone to help out who you can trust, so you can make a quick escape and regain control.
- Make time for you
Make sure you are having “me time” once a week. Choose a time that works, and stick to it. Paint your toes while your kids are in the bathtub, take a bubble bath after everyone is in bed, go to the gym in the morning or evening, read while the baby is napping, or get your nails done while your older kids are at school. Whatever it may be, make time for you. You shouldn’t feel guilty about me time, because in order to take good care of everybody else, you need to take care of you first!
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